When Anxiety Whispers. Have we forgotten how to be human? #Living with stress. #RRBC #PTSD #STRESS


When Anxiety Whispers.

We all hear those dark whispers, those paralyzing moments of anxiety. It comes with the territory of living in a society set on fast forward when the pace of everyday life becomes so frantic, so overwhelming, that we begin of necessity to sacrifice something intrinsic and necessary within us.
The days we live now are filled with the marvelous inventions of the internet, but has the pace of our knowledge grown beyond our capacity to understand its repercussions?

I make full use of everything available to me and, yes, I am grateful for the brilliant minds that opened my small world up to so much more than I’ve ever dreamed of. I acknowledge that connectivity, I understand that we are living in an age where no one need be isolated, those folks too shy or encumbered by ill health either physical or mental to be able to connect with others of our species by interacting on a personal level now have an outlet, a way of joining in on life’s conversations.

I get that we are privileged; I understand and accept that this is indeed an amazing transition from an age where television was a new invention, and not every home had the telephone available.
But … my concern is this … we are human, we are warm-blooded creatures, we need contact with others of our species the way a seedling needs rain. We are becoming isolated but not insulated from the world we now live in.

Has our humanity diminished as we shut ourselves inside our gated communities, or triple lock the doors of our homes? Where bars on the windows are commonplace, and we alarm our houses and insert surveillance cameras’ just so we can grab a few hours sleep at night. We live in fear of those that would take our cars, our electrical equipment, our goods and chattels, fear of the dark figures possibly armed that may invade our only safe haven.

But what of the fear of stolen identity?

My anxiety stems from my growing awareness, an awareness of a disconnection, a step back from human to human interaction. I witness every day the people around me, with earplugs firmly in place and concentration and awareness of their immediate environment depleted, where they check an app on their iPhone to discover if the weather will be sunny or if rain is on its way. They can no longer remember if indeed they ever knew what it is to look simply look at the sky and have long forgotten the smell of rain pending on the wind.
They scurry by with heads down and absolute focus on their cellphone, they walk out into oncoming traffic, surprised and annoyed when someone in a car suddenly blares the horn.
The price we pay for our new world is enormous. Those anxious whispers catch the unprepared and inexperienced traveler and hurtle them full throttle into sleepless nights and stress-filled days.
Those of us that delude ourselves that our world is malleable to our wishes, those that struggle on despite the imprisoning chains of our existence, these are the people that at times pay the highest penalty of all.
For we begin to lose sight of the precious moments as we battle each day. We forget what the dream was to begin with, as we attempt to manipulate life to fit our own agendas.
Where did the days disappear to, when did the nights become just another stretch of time to endure?

When was the last time you laughed with the simple delight of living? Did those you love hear you tell them that you loved them today?

Are you so busy working, traveling each day to a place that you’ve grown to detest, to find that one precious moment in time to just take a deep breath and be quiet within yourself?

Did you notice the seasons changing? How did the summer end and the leaves begin to turn golden, without you witnessing and rejoicing in that precious life-cycle?

When did your child grow to be so tall? When did your friends stop calling? When was the last time you all got together and caught up on sweet memories for just a brief while? Don’t you miss that shared laughter? Don’t you miss those hugs of acknowledgement or concern?

The dark whispers grow darker with no light to stop them.

The feelings of being unable to deal with the task of just surviving each day grow large and ever darker as those anxious whispers spiral out of control.

When did you begin to need a drink each night in order to relax in your own home?

When did just one or two drinks cease to create the resultant deep breaths that you crave?

When did your iPhone replace a face-to-face conversation? How is it that your partner has now gray in their hair? How did that happen without you witnessing the transition?

We stand to lose far more of our dreams as our world grows more frantic.

When does it stop? Do we have the capacity to alter that state of being?

I embrace the technology but my concern grows for the generation now coming.
Will all the Science Fiction writer’s be proven right? Will our growing super-technology deplete what we have always valued in each other, to a point where the word human is only recognized as a label to pinpoint what planet we came from?

If we can but step back one pace, make a time and a space and a place to recall how it once was, and value that memory. If we can scent the wind and feel the rain on our faces again. If we can stop by at a friend’s home simply to say “Hi, I’ve missed you, how are you today?”

If we can turn off the television, the laptop, the Ipad and the iPhone for just an hour each day, and sit together again at the dining table and make eye contact and heart contact once more.

If we can treasure those brief moments together of fellowship and connection, then perhaps those anxiety whispers will still.

We’ll render them useless as we reclaim the dreams … and our lives.

Make the time, take the time, make those anxiety whispers lessen as we recreate briefly a world where human touch, and the simple joy of companionship is again treasured.

It would only take a brief moment of your time. Surely, that’s not too much to ask.

Is it?


19 thoughts on “When Anxiety Whispers. Have we forgotten how to be human? #Living with stress. #RRBC #PTSD #STRESS

  1. I loved this. You brought up a lot of issues I think about, too. Yes, we are lucky to have so much information and entertainment at our touch. There is good and bad for that privilege. The disconnect and stress are a couple of high prices we pay for it. For me nature is my calm and way to heal and connect to me again. To leave technology at home and be. So, to answer your question it is not too much to ask I agree.

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    1. Thanks for stopping by, my friend. That calm place is so essential to our wellbeing, when all else fails I lay on my back and look up at the sky. The vastness of our universe makes everything else that concerns me smaller by comparison. I’m thankful that my daughter (Aged 36) has held on to her memory of her childhood, and my 5-year-old grandson is reaping the benefit of that memory. It’s such a complex problem facing those who teach and inspire our young people, but ultimately it’s the example that we set for them at home that will influence their futures.

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  2. A very heartfelt post, Soooz. I too worry about younger generations. It’s easy for me to disconnect from technology (which I do frequently) because I remember the “before” time….a time of family dinners, playing outside until dark, sleepovers, picking wild strawberries, cursive writing!…..so many things. I grew up with them so I consider myself part of the between generation, able to straddle both worlds and smoothly transition from one to the other as needed.

    But if I never had those things, how hard would it be for me to disconnect? If all I ever knew was iPhones, social media, video gaming, etc. from the time I was a kid, it might be a lot harder to disconnect.

    Hubby and I had dinner out a while back and of the patrons around us, there was a couple with a teenage son. The mother talked on her iPhone through most of the dinner, the son was on his iPad and the husband sat there eating silently. I felt so bad for him.

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    1. Hi, Mae Clair! I’m so thankful that I raised my daughter with memories of the family celebrating life together. My grandson (Master 5-year-old) has keyboard skills and a knowledge of computer speak that simply floors me, but … my daughter allows him a maximum hour and a half per day online. The remainder is spent outdoors, exploring the park, feeding the ducks, or using his trampoline and giggling madly when the little boy from next door is using his at the same time. His laughter is a joy to hear. Such simple things, aren’t they? I utilize my online world a great deal, and I’m so thankful that my physical restrictions are unimportant in that online world, so I do benefit absolutely from this marvelous invention. That doesn’t stop me from seeing the inherent danger offered by the isolation the internet affords. Thanks so much for stopping by, my friend.

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      1. 😊 We are an awesome team, my daughter and I. (Picture ‘Wonder Woman’ and ‘The Wicked Witch Of The West’) No prizes for guessing which one I am) Evil cackles and exits stage left.

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  3. Reblogged this on Jan Hawke INKorporated and commented:
    Must read article from Soooz – I’m having major tech problems today so must be content to reblog & spread this around a bit. Will reply more perntinently in a couple of days when my broadband goes superfast… yeah, right! We must live in hope anyway! 😀

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  4. 😊Jan, thanks so much for the reblogg, my friend, especially when you are experiencing tech problems. I look forward to hearing your views when your broadband behaves itself.

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  5. Good one, Soooz. I don’t know of anyone on their death bed saying, “I wish I could get one more like on Facebook.” You have made a call for humans to be human. It’s a tall order and I wish more would listen. Bess you dearheart.

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    1. It’s my hope that the younger folks that have memories of a childhood that included those precious moments when happiness shone ever so brightly. That light that nourished their souls and replenished their spirits, these are the ones who will lead by example. I am remaining optimistic that our humanity will be sustained.

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    1. Many of my friends share our concerns. These changes we are seeing now are the pilgrims for all that is yet to come. The best we can do is lead by example and hope that our own children deal with those changes without sacrificing their empathy with their own species.


  6. I agree with you Suzanne, that we are moving away from natural and open communication to a world of on-line communication. Our children barely speak to each other, preferring to text each other messages instead. We are in danger of losing the very attributes that we cherish the most as humans – our humanity and caring.

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    1. Yes, indeed, Robbie. My daughter recently instigated a programme for my five-year-old grandson, he is too focused already on his online activities, he now is permitted only one hour per day, from 4.00pm till 5.00pm. The remainder of his daylight hours are spent outside playing. I worry for the young ones whose parents don’t set stringent guidelines. I worry for all those young ones whose definition of their own worth is reliant on how many likes they got on Facebook. I fear our rapid advancements into this wondrous technology has unintended consequences stamped all over it.

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